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What do you mean there’s no nanobots? My first step in cancer genetic testing

What do you mean there’s no nanobots? My first step in cancer genetic testing

This post is about my decision to get genetic screening for cancer risk. It contains frank discussion about death, disease, mental health, and medical tests and procedures. Early in 2013 when my dad was just 54 he died from a recurrence of esophageal cancer. I […]

It’s all the same in the dark as it is in the light

It’s all the same in the dark as it is in the light

My baby moves from daycare into full-on Preschool next week. I’m not ready. I’m not ready. I’m not ready. Every heartbeat. Every bit of my anxiety thuds in my chest. Every stage of his life brings new fears. Yesterday he came home from school and […]

It’s okay if you hate your mom on mother’s day

It’s okay if you hate your mom on mother’s day

It’s okay if you can’t muster up any good feelings towards your mother today. It’s okay if you hate her. It’s okay if you don’t want to see her, or hear from her, or send her a card, or pretend that everything is fine. It’s […]

Sins of the Mother: Taking a Chainsaw to Generational Trauma

Sins of the Mother: Taking a Chainsaw to Generational Trauma

A letter to my son: I spend a lot of time telling you what Little Me needed to hear growing up. I know that the words I say to my children will become their inner voice. I would know, because my inner voice is an […]

Should you bring your FAA approved car seat to the apocalypse?

Should you bring your FAA approved car seat to the apocalypse?

“Mommy, come hide with me,” he calls from under a pile of pillows. He spends entirely too long arranging the blanket just so, in the way only three year olds can. “We are trapped now! No one can find us.” We giggle conspiratorially at our […]

How to Deal with a Toxic Person, Part One: Identifying Toxic People in Your Life

How to Deal with a Toxic Person, Part One: Identifying Toxic People in Your Life

Let’s talk about toxic people. The difference between toxic people and assholes? With someone toxic, you have some sort of connected relationship that makes it hard to dismiss them. When we meet a stranger who is toxic, we just call them an asshole and avoid […]