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It’s all the same in the dark as it is in the light

It’s all the same in the dark as it is in the light

My baby moves from daycare into full-on Preschool next week. I’m not ready. I’m not ready. I’m not ready. Every heartbeat. Every bit of my anxiety thuds in my chest. Every stage of his life brings new fears. Yesterday he came home from school and […]

It’s okay if you hate your mom on mother’s day

It’s okay if you hate your mom on mother’s day

It’s okay if you can’t muster up any good feelings towards your mother today. It’s okay if you hate her. It’s okay if you don’t want to see her, or hear from her, or send her a card, or pretend that everything is fine. It’s […]

Temporarily Embarrassed Thin People: Why Internalized Fatphobia Hurts Fat Liberation

Temporarily Embarrassed Thin People: Why Internalized Fatphobia Hurts Fat Liberation

We have all seen this happen in a comment thread. Someone will post something fatphobic—let’s say, an article that positions fat bodies as something to be avoided, or weight gain as the scariest thing that can happen to a person—and a fat person (or several) […]

Sins of the Mother: Taking a Chainsaw to Generational Trauma

Sins of the Mother: Taking a Chainsaw to Generational Trauma

A letter to my son: I spend a lot of time telling you what Little Me needed to hear growing up. I know that the words I say to my children will become their inner voice. I would know, because my inner voice is an […]

My Brain is a Shitty Car and I’m Trying Real Hard Not to Crash: A Depression Metaphor

My Brain is a Shitty Car and I’m Trying Real Hard Not to Crash: A Depression Metaphor

I’ve started thinking of my brain as a shitty old car. I’ve got anxiety, I’ve got depression, and my bumpers are a little dented. I’ve had this car for such a long time. I can’t get rid of it, I’ve just got to learn to […]

Should you bring your FAA approved car seat to the apocalypse?

Should you bring your FAA approved car seat to the apocalypse?

“Mommy, come hide with me,” he calls from under a pile of pillows. He spends entirely too long arranging the blanket just so, in the way only three year olds can. “We are trapped now! No one can find us.” We giggle conspiratorially at our […]

How to Deal with a Toxic Person, Part One: Identifying Toxic People in Your Life

How to Deal with a Toxic Person, Part One: Identifying Toxic People in Your Life

Let’s talk about toxic people. The difference between toxic people and assholes? With someone toxic, you have some sort of connected relationship that makes it hard to dismiss them. When we meet a stranger who is toxic, we just call them an asshole and avoid […]

Resolutions: On exiting 2017 and entering 2018

Resolutions: On exiting 2017 and entering 2018

As I thought about my resolutions for the coming year, I wondered where the tradition of creating resolutions began and why it was a thing that humans continue to do. Of course, I never actually got to finding that answer because ADHD and the open […]

This year was a lot, but let’s talk about some of the good stuff.

This year was a lot, but let’s talk about some of the good stuff.

So let’s be honest here: 2017 has been a total shitshow. Even the parts of it that have been kinda good, like a few men facing a few consequences, have been painful as hell for most of us to witness. So I feel like  remembering […]

Gingerbread recipes that you’ll scroll halfway through before buying a tube of Pillsbury sugar cookies with trees on them

Gingerbread recipes that you’ll scroll halfway through before buying a tube of Pillsbury sugar cookies with trees on them

Mini Vegan Gingerbread Cakes A perfect challenge for the gingerbread aficionado, great for hosting guests, and an ideal way to give your loved ones a custom feeling little cake, and stays accessible for a variety of diets and tastes. Step 1: Preheat oven to 350°F. Step 2: In […]